12: 40 Days and 40 Nights
Posted on | July 25, 2009 | 4 Comments
Speaking of apologism for women who rape men, I remember the first time I saw this scene from the film 40 Days and 40 Nights. I was just completely and utterly appalled that they would put this scene in here as not only a plot point, but as something other than rape. I still am, though I’m no longer surprised.
For those not familiar with the film, the (rather juvenile) plot goes something like this: dude gets out of a bad relationship with a shitty girlfriend, can’t get over her, and decides that sex is the problem. So he decides to give up sex for Lent. Then, as luck would have it, he meets the perfect woman. Only, now he can’t have sex with her! He eventually gets her to understand, and things will be happily ever after, until he’s asleep right before the end of the 40 days — handcuffed to the bed by a friend so that he won’t masturbate — and his ex-girlfriend rapes him.
Video is NSFW and could be triggering.
Not only does she rape him, but his current girlfriend quite clearly blames him for it. His friend tries to come up with ways to make it look like it wasn’t his fault, as though it actually was. And the guy who was actually raped only cares because of how it screws things up with his current girlfriend. Eventually, he gets back together with her with a speech about how much he screwed up. And then they have endless hours of hot sex together, completely unaffected by the fact that one of them was just raped less than two weeks ago.
Before the video was removed over here, 28 users rated it sexy, and 9 users rated it funny. The video is rated five stars on YouTube. That’s some rape culture for you.
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July 25th, 2009 @ 2:35 pm
that’s horrible. I don’t think I’m going to watch the clip. I don’t really have much to add… except that comments might be helpful during a blogathon!
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July 25th, 2009 @ 2:57 pm
I remember that scene, it was awful. I also think the movie is awful because it makes it seem like men can’t go without sex for 40 days and 40 nights. So, we must bet on it and make sure it doesn’t happen!
July 25th, 2009 @ 3:29 pm
The attitude that the movie’s premise relies on, that men always want sex, is the same idea that allows that scene to be treated as something other than rape. It’s truly shameful.
July 27th, 2009 @ 11:02 am
I always use this movie as an example of how it’s possible for men to be raped. It’s a bit extreme, but at least it gets the idea in their heads.